What is the incredible power that you can enjoy when you take responsibility and accountability for your life? How is your response to life directly related to how empowered or disempowered you are? Why is your desire to be liked by everyone keeping you stuck from experiencing true intimacy?

In this podcast episode, I am so excited to have Jana Alonso on. Jana shares a personal story about her Mom and we talk about how to unlock your authenticity, love more, and suffer less in life

Meet Jana Alonso

Jana is the creator of Integrative Healing, a multi-modality & dimensional approach to self-healing & self-mastery, & the CEO/founder of the School of Integrative Healing. The School is a long-term approach to true, holistic transformation. These healing practices are a large part of Jana’s life’s work and the essence of all of her teachings.

Jana is a firm believer in having fun whilst doing personal and business work. She believes that you can have it all — wealth, health, success, and greatness, as well as rest, joy, love, connection, and lightness — even during challenging times.

Connect with Jana Alonso on her website. Find her on Facebook.

Summary

• Decide how you want to respond
• The power of taking responsibility
• Desiring to be liked is a chain

Decide how you want to respond

We’re all going to endure some level of pain. Pain is inevitable whether it be grieving the loss of someone very important to us or whether we’re grieving who we once thought we needed to be, and owning who we currently are. (Veronica Cisneros)

Pain is inevitable. There will be moments in life where you will have to deal with something challenging, but remember; you will always have the ability to decide how you want to respond to life.

Even though it might not feel like it – especially when things are tough – you always have the choice of deciding how to want to respond to something in life. That is where your power lies. So remember, pain is inevitable but suffering is optional.

There are going to be challenges in life, however there’s also suffering, and suffering is 1000% optional. We can choose to be imprisoned by our past and by our perceptions, we have that choice. (Veronica Cisneros)

The power of taking responsibility

For me, responsibility and decision are the lightest things in the world because if I can take responsibility for it then I can have the outcome I desire and that’s when this gets to be really exciting because it’s not just about what’s happened to me, it’s about what I’m creating for the future for me. (Jana Alonso)

When life is difficult and you step into the power of making a choice based on the situation that you are in, you empower yourself by taking responsibility.

You empower yourself because you realize that no one can force you into a situation in life. You got yourself into it, and you can get yourself out of it again.

Desiring to be liked is a chain

If you have a great desire to be liked and loved by the people around you, you often find yourself doing more of what they want and expect from you than what you want for yourself in your life.

This holds you back in many more ways than you can imagine because you will get stuck in changing the things in your life to suit other people in their lives. Who are you then?

When you need people to like you, they control you, and you don’t control you, and this looks like, “I need this person to like me, and in my mind I think this person is only going to like me if I am X, Y, and Z, and that means I’m only going to show these qualities of myself and throw away the rest of my qualities.” (Jana Alonso)

If you desire to be liked by others more than yourself, then you are chained to their expectations of you and you lose the connection that you have to other parts of who you are.

You have to be authentic in who you are, and this is especially important if you want true connection and intimacy in your relationships.

How can you have true intimacy if there’s no authenticity? (Jane Alonso)

Your capacity and ability to have intimacy are connected to your ability to be authentic in who you are, what you need, and what you want.

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• Jana’s Website: https://theschoolofintegrativehealing.com/
• Jana’s Course: https://alonsojana.com/integrative-healing/
• Jana’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jana-bartlett-alonso-a6a812184/
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Meet Veronica Cisneros

Hello, my name is Veronica Cisneros, I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Marriage Coach, Course Creator, Retreat Host, Mother of 3, married for 23 years, host of the Empowered and Unapologetic podcast, and owner of a group private practice called Outside The Norm Counseling.

A lot of couples struggle with setting aside intentional time to connect and communicate. They yearn for meaningful conversations that don’t lead to arguments.

1 month away from divorce, I realized I had to do something different. For years I had compromised myself to meet the needs of my husband and my child, I lost myself and was about to lose my marriage. After years of personal growth and self-reflection, I not only reclaimed my identity, and celebrated 23 years of marriage but also helped hundreds of couples transform their marriage from feeling like roommates to experiencing a deeper love.

I am on a mission to help couples reignite the fire by providing them with the skills to have the relationship they deserve.

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