Mama, it’s been a crazy ride lately, right? With the pandemic and all that’s been going on the past while, I have noticed an increase in couples needing therapy. Couples are really struggling with communication, connection, and even conversations.

Let me ask you, do you know how to strengthen your relationship by encouraging your partner’s individuality? Do you know what you can do to help your partner move through their difficult emotions without having your boundaries crossed? Can you tell your partner exactly what you are feeling without it leading to an argument?

In this podcast episode, I am joined by Alejandra and Nate Urbanovsky. Alex (Alejandra) went to high school with me.  Some years later we reconnected, and she signed up for my Retreat. She and her husband, Nate, have been through my coaching program. So, I was super excited to sit down with them and talk about my topic this week, How to Build Core Strength by Supporting Your Husband?

In This Podcast

Summary

• Share your individuality
• The only way out is through
• Empathy
• Alex and Nate’s advice to couples

Share your individuality

One of the tenets of a healthy relationship is knowing and celebrating your partner’s individuality. You celebrate their life and success as if it were your own, but you do not tie your partners to you as if they belonged to you.

Your partner does not exist for you, they have their dreams and goals, but you work to incorporate both of your aspirations into the relationship.

It seems pretty straightforward, that the better each of us are the better we’re going to be together. (Nate Urbanovsky)

You cannot control your partner to stay with you. The beauty of a relationship blooms in the fact that two people are free to be fully themselves, and in that place, they choose to be together. The relationship is at risk if you and your partner have to hold the other in place because that is not based on love and respect, that is based on need and desperation.

The only way out is through

One thing that really helps couples is that I’ve seen work is [that] although something is hard or difficult being able to be open and honest about it [is best]. (Veronica Cisneros)

You can help your partner move through their difficult emotions without taking them on as your own.

If your partner is going through a tough time, you can be there to support them, but you cannot take it on or be their punching bag. Assert your boundaries while giving them love, and do not allow them to harm you in their frustration.

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Empathy

Share with your partner exactly what it is that you are feeling because they cannot read your mind.

Even if it feels silly, explaining to your partner why you feel the way you do and recognize that it is not their fault but that maybe something about their behavior has triggered you, will help you and them come to terms quicker and without an unnecessary fight.

It will also help you to hear each other and provide one another with the opportunity for connection and a deeper understanding instead of lashing out from frustration.

Alex and Nate’s advice to couples

Support each other through trauma and continue to ask questions like “what is wrong”, “what do you need from me now”, “what can I do”? Continue to vocalize finding the root of the problem because it leads to deeper conversations to solve the issue.

Share support for everything that you both do and want to do in your lives.

Useful links:

• How Do I Know If My Marriage Needs Counseling or a Marriage Course? | EU 85
• Reignite Your Marriage and Reclaim Your Identity: By Cutting Through The Communication Barriers Course – SIGN UP HERE
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• Join The Empowered and Unapologetic Housewives Club
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Meet Veronica Cisneros

Hello, my name is Veronica Cisneros, I am a licensed marriage and family therapist for over 7 years, a Group Private Practice owner, a Mother of 3, and married for 21 years. I help housewives transform their marriage, communicate effectively and build confidence. Like you, I also struggled with cutting through the communication barriers. I felt like there was no reason for my husband and I to feel unhappy because we had it all. We just felt disconnected and our conversations were filled with avoidance, kids’ hobbies, and schedules. 

I’ve helped plenty of couples in my private practice who struggled with similar issues. With my proven strategies and step-by-step skills, I’ve helped hundreds of women reignite their marriages. I am known for helping women step outside of their comfort zones, I don’t do bandaids, I only teach life-changing healing methods.

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