Mama, what truly brings you fulfillment in life? Do you care what other people, family, heck…even what other moms think of you? Do you make the most of every moment or do you let other people determine what brings you joy? Are you taking time out for yourself to reclaim your true confidence and are you showing up for your own needs?

I get it, being a Mom is hard and we often neglect ourselves and put everyone else’s needs before ours and we tend to care what other people think about us, that is why in today’s podcast episode I will be teaching you how to be confident in your own decisions and take action before the fear of failure takes over.

In This Podcast

Summary

• The reason behind confidence
• Building confidence and trust
• Action steps going forward

The reason behind confidence

Do you bring fulfillment to your life, or do you expect other people to meet your needs? Are you stuck waiting on someone; your husband, your kids, to bring you meaning and fulfillment in life?

Confidence is not about taking care of everyone around you. Confidence is born from centering yourself in your universe and caring for your needs and wants, and later bringing that love and awareness to others, but it needs to start with you.

Why have you allowed somebody else to determine your life? This is really the reason why you lack confidence. This is really the reason why you struggle with making decisions. This is really the reason why you struggle with taking action. (Veronica Cisneros)

Building confidence and trust

Once you have decided that you are going to take action in your life, and make actual meaningful change to become the active agent in your story, where do you begin?

1 – First, admit that you have no clue what it will look like.

You do not need to know everything. You can start in a place that is unfamiliar and the first part is recognizing that is new territory, and stepping in any way, and not pulling back.

• Who does have the skills that you want to learn?
• Which people in your life are doing the things that you want to do?

Observe their characteristics, ask them questions, and learn from them as much as you can.

One thing I noticed was each person that I adored and admired all had one thing in common: they were open and honest with not knowing what the end would look like … they were open and honest with having a fear of failure … and not knowing what the next step would look like but taking it anyway. (Veronica Cisneros)

2 – Why are you seeking external validation?

If you are constantly waiting on someone else to tell you what to do, to praise you, to thank you, then you can blame them if things do not work out.

Self-validation is recognizing that you do not know what may happen, or that you are uncertain, and knowing that it is okay. You are validating your experience and are not waiting on someone else to tell you that what you feel is real or worthy. You are that person for yourself.

3 – Release the fear of being concerned with what other people might think.

Face your fear and do it anyway. Even if you are met with rejection, do it anyway, because it starts with you … do something about it … identify why you’re that mom that’s not pursuing her dreams but yet tells their kids that they can be whoever they want to be. Own it. (Veronica Cisneros)

Lack of confidence translates into a lack of trust. If you do not trust yourself to take responsibility for your own life, then you will not feel confident in creating the life you want to live.

Building confidence in yourself means building trust in yourself.

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Action steps going forward

1 – One year from now: what is it that you want in your life?

• What do you want your life to look like?
• How can you set your life up for success?

2 – What is currently standing in your way from pursuing the life you want to live?

• Is it a financial hurdle?
• Do you feel unconfident?

3 – Create action steps: what can you do?

• What can you do this week to made headway to at least one of these dreams?
• What is close by, what is affordable, and what is realistic?

4 – Describe what it would feel like to say “I am X”

• How would it feel for you to say that you ARE what you wish to be?
• Say it aloud and see how it feels.

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Meet Veronica Cisneros

I’m a licensed therapist and women walk into my office every day stressed and disconnected. As a mom of three daughters, I want my girls to know who they are and feel confident about their future. I can’t think of a better way to help other women than by demonstrating an empowered and unapologetic life.

So I started  Empowered and Unapologetic to be a safe space for women to be vulnerable and change their lives for the better before she ever needs to see a therapist.

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