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February 26, 2024

Can you feel that you want to make a change in your life?

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Can you feel that you want to make a change in your life? Have you felt stuck in the same patterns or problems? What are the most important and helpful aspects that you need to be aware of for a truly positive change to happen in your life?

In this episode, I interview Susan Lazar Hart, a transformational mindset coach, about navigating change and finding harmony in life. Susan shares her journey of overcoming heavy metal poisoning and the pivotal moments that shifted her mindset. She emphasizes the importance of asking questions and being willing to honor yourself. Susan also discusses the challenge of living in the question and explores the concept of aligning your calendar with your values.

She encourages listeners to say no and turn it into what works for them. The episode concludes with a discussion on finding joy and negotiating your calendar. In this conversation, Susan Lazar Hart shares insights on creating a life you love and embracing growth. She emphasizes the power of questions and the willingness to shift and change.

Gratitude and appreciation are highlighted as transformative practices, along with the importance of saying no to say yes to what truly brings joy. The ripple effect of gratitude and the impact of being the light in the world are explored. The conversation also delves into the significance of self-reflection and intentional choice-making, as well as the power of sharing stories to create openings for others. This is an episode not to be missed!

Meet Susan Lazar Hart

Susan Lazar Hart is a transformational mindset coach, author, mentor, and motivational speaker who has helped thousands of creatives around the world find harmony in the inevitability of change. Her expertise in smoothly navigating change draws from her own struggle with heavy metal poisoning, which dampened her vibrant life and sparked her studies of homeopathy, body awareness, and quantum physics. Combining these and other modalities, Susan established The Congruent Life Method as a guide to recognize limiting beliefs, build a powerful mindset, and confidently call in abundance. Her newest book, Breaking Free: Your Unique Path to Fearless Living, empowers her readers to create lives they genuinely love.

Connect with Susan on her website. Follow her on Instagram.


  • Ask yourself; “what else is possible?”
  • Are you willing to honor yourself?
  • Why saying “no” can be saying “yes”
  • Change “I have to” into “I get to”

Ask yourself; “what else is possible?”

During moments of conflict, illness, struggle, or any kind of difficulty in life where you need to find help, don’t let the first “no” put you down or stop you from seeking out help.

If you are struggling with a problem, either mentally, physically, emotionally or spiritually, the best thing that you can do is to maintain a solution-based mindset because it will help you to see the opportunities instead of only the issues.

I think the turning point [for me] was the awareness; “Okay, acknowledge this is going on, and ask, ‘What else is possible?’” Who else is out there for me to speak with so that I can actually shift and change this? (Susan Lazar Hart)

Essentially, Susan is encouraging you to be within the question instead of only working with direct answers, and to avoid the hardlined “yes, no”, and “maybe”.

Part of asking this question means that you are also tapping into your inner wisdom and knowing, and that you do not fully outsource all the decisions to people around you, but that you take a lead in figuring out the answer for yourself as well.

The kindest you can be to yourself is to start tapping into what you truly believe, what you truly know, that is an honor of you, your life, your living, and where you want to go in creating your life. (Susan Lazar Hart)

Are you willing to honor yourself?

You can want to build a good life for yourself. You can dream about everything you want, all your desires, aspirations, and hopes for the future. You can know that you are worthy of receiving them, and you can know that they are within your reach.

However, the first thing that you need to set straight with yourself is if you are willing to make it happen?

Are you willing to honor yourself? That is a huge question because we all want to say; “Well, yeah!” … And it’s like, no no, are you willing? Because that’s different … In other words, are you willing to do what’s necessary? (Veronica Cisneros)

Here’s the deal: if you are not willing to do something different, then nothing will be different. You have to be willing to make a change and step up to it for it to meet you halfway because life gives you more of what you give it.

Why saying “no” can be saying “yes”

When you say “no” to others, you turn that into saying “yes” to yourself. When you are organizing your calendar for the week or the month, always ask yourself if the schedule you are creating for yourself is aligned with your values.

Have you intentionally made a space for the things that are important to you? Have you intentionally made a space for yourself?

Even though it can feel like life directs us, remember that you have more autonomy than you think, and you can definitely chart the course of your life – in unison with life, not against it, and not feeling like it is against you.

What in this calendar works for me, and what doesn’t? Because everything’s negotiable … Is this the life that brings you joy? If it’s not, change it! (Susan Lazar Hart)

Change “I have to” into “I get to”

It’s so easy to fall into the trap of chasing the calendar and the schedule, running from one thing to the next, and never stop, pause, and actually notice what we’re doing.

Take an aerial view of your life. Look at all the components of it:

  • Are you running around with your kids? How special it is to have a family!
  • Is work getting busy? How great it is to have a job to earn an income to support yourself and your loved ones.
  • Trying to find time with your partner? How special it is to have someone to share life with!
  • There’s a class at the gym you want to take? How lucky you are to have a healthy body!

Don’t use this exercise as a means to punish yourself for feeling stressed or overwhelmed. Sure, you can feel those things, but learn to remind yourself of the blessings that you have in your life as well.

Don’t get comfortable complaining and never take a chance to look at what you have going on in your life and not be grateful for it, because one day these things will change, and you may find that you missed the chance to appreciate them while they were there.

I’m so grateful! If we’re willing to include; “I’m so grateful for all of these choices! And which of these brings me the most amount of joy right now?” When we step into gratitude and we look at what we’re creating, instead of complaining, to say I’m so grateful I have this choice. What else is possible here? (Susan Hart)

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Susan Lazar Hart – Breaking Free: Your Unique Path to Fearless Living

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Meet Veronica Cisneros

Veronica Cisneros | Empowered And Unapologetic Podcast

Hello, my name is Veronica Cisneros, I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Marriage Coach, Course Creator, Retreat Host, Mother of 3, married for 23 years, host of the Empowered and Unapologetic podcast, and owner of a group private practice called Outside The Norm Counseling.

A lot of couples struggle with setting aside intentional time to connect and communicate. They yearn for meaningful conversations that don’t lead to arguments.

1 month away from divorce, I realized I had to do something different. For years I had compromised myself to meet the needs of my husband and my child, I lost myself and was about to lose my marriage. After years of personal growth and self-reflection, I not only reclaimed my identity, and celebrated 23 years of marriage but also helped hundreds of couples transform their marriage from feeling like roommates to experiencing a deeper love.

I am on a mission to help couples reignite the fire by providing them with the skills to have the relationship they deserve.

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