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Imagine discovering a lump and being told, ‘You’re too young to worry about this.’ For Regina Casini and many other women, these words reflect the systemic challenges in advocating for our health. In this episode, I dive into the power of self-advocacy and early detection with Regina, who shares her journey through breast cancer and the importance of knowing and standing up for your body’s needs.

Hey ladies, welcome to the Empowered and Unapologetic podcast. My name is Veronica Cisneros, and today, we’re diving into something most of us choose to ignore—our own health.

Today’s episode is all about self-care, but not in the way you might think. We’re talking real, foundational health, and how women—especially mothers and high-achieving women—often delay it, prioritizing everyone else first. This episode is close to my heart because our guest, Regina Cassini, opens up about her journey with breast cancer and her role at Michelle’s Place, a breast cancer resource center that offers critical support. Let’s dive into why it’s so hard for us to make our health a priority and how we can change that.

Takeaways

• Health is often neglected by women, especially mothers.
• Regina’s journey with Michelle’s Place began with her own cancer diagnosis.
• Michelle’s Place was founded to ensure no one faces cancer alone.
• Emotional distress and body image are significant challenges for women with breast cancer.
• Women often hesitate to ask for help during difficult times.
• Support systems are crucial for those battling cancer.
• Younger clients are increasingly seeking support for various cancers.
• Early detection of cancer significantly improves treatment options.
• Patients should advocate for themselves and ask questions during medical appointments.
• Michelle’s Place offers a variety of resources and support for cancer patients.

Michelle’s Place: A Place of Support and Healing

“When I was diagnosed with breast cancer, I walked through the doors of Michelle’s Place, not as a visitor but as someone whose world had been turned upside down.” – Regina Casini

In 2017, Regina stumbled upon Michelle’s Place at a health fair and made a donation, never imagining that only a few months later, she’d be the one needing support. Diagnosed with breast cancer, she found a safe haven in Michelle’s Place, a resource center founded by Bill and Marilyn Watson in honor of their daughter, Michelle. At 19, Michelle discovered a lump in her breast, but doctors repeatedly dismissed her concerns. By the time she was finally diagnosed at 23, it was stage-four breast cancer.

“Michelle’s Place was her dream—a place where no one should face cancer alone.” – Regina Casini

When Michelle passed away at just 26, her family opened Michelle’s Place as a sanctuary for those affected by breast cancer, fulfilling Michelle’s dream to create a space where people could find comfort and companionship.

Facing the Hard Truth: The Importance of Women’s Health

“She did everything right, yet still had to face this journey. I think about the moms listening right now who are constantly putting themselves last, delaying their own appointments.” – Veronica Cisneros

So many women push their health to the back burner. I can’t count the times I’ve sat across from a woman who can tell me the exact date of her child’s last doctor’s appointment but can’t remember her own. We take care of everyone else, but when it comes to ourselves, there’s always something else more important. The truth is, many women avoid check-ups, waiting until something is seriously wrong, rather than taking proactive steps.

The Toll of a Breast Cancer Diagnosis

“Common struggles include emotional distress, body image issues, financial strain, and the hardest one—how to tell the kids.” – Regina Casini

Regina described the impact of a breast cancer diagnosis. Beyond the physical battle, there’s an emotional weight, the fear of looking different, the financial burdens, and the terrifying responsibility of breaking the news to children. Regina has seen these struggles over and over at Michelle’s Place, and the hardest part is helping women realize that they don’t have to carry this alone.

My Own Health Scare

“I’m a huge advocate for women’s empowerment, yet when I faced my own health scare, I went straight to feeling overwhelmed and isolated.” – Veronica Cisneros

Just last year, I had a moment that brought all of this full circle. I found two lumps in my breasts, and it was terrifying. Even though I have the resources and support, I found myself slipping into that isolation. I drove to my office and just sat there, feeling helpless. I had all these thoughts running through my head about my kids, my husband, my clients. I ended up starting a silly argument with my husband because, honestly, I didn’t know how to express my fear. As strong as we try to be, sometimes we just need someone else to carry a bit of that load.

Why We Struggle to Ask for Help

“We don’t want to burden anybody. We’re the caregivers, and it’s hard to take. But if I could tell people one thing, it’s: don’t ask, just do. Drop off that meal, send that gift card—just do it.” – Regina Casini

When it comes to asking for help, most of us struggle. Regina made a powerful point: women are so used to giving that it’s incredibly hard for us to receive. Asking for help feels like a burden, even though logically we know it’s not. Regina’s advice to friends and family is simply to take action without waiting for permission. Don’t ask if we need something, just do it—whether it’s picking up our kids, dropping off a meal, or just being there.

Breaking the Cycle

This episode made me realize that, as women, we need to change how we approach our health. Yes, we’re caregivers, but we deserve care too. One of the biggest takeaways from Regina’s story and Michelle’s legacy is that no one should face these challenges alone. We need to break down the stigma around asking for help, lean on our support networks, and remember that self-care isn’t selfish—it’s essential.

“Just do it. Don’t wait for someone to ask. And when it’s you in need, remember: asking for help doesn’t make you weak. It makes you human.” – Veronica Cisneros

Breast Cancer Awareness: Know Your Body, Ask Questions, Be Your Advocate

As a licensed therapist and host of Empowered and Unapologetic, I’m passionate about helping women take charge of their health—not just mental, but physical too. Recently, I had the honor of speaking with Regina Casini, a remarkable advocate from Michelle’s Place, a breast cancer resource center. Regina’s experiences with breast cancer, both personally and within her family, emphasize a powerful message about the importance of early detection and advocating for your health.

The Critical Role of Early Detection

During our conversation, Regina shared the story of her daughter, who faced skepticism about seeking care due to her young age. She said:

“The first time someone didn’t question why my daughter was there was her last ultrasound. I had to remind them, my bald head is not a fashion statement.” – Regina Casini

This hit home for me, as too often we rely on medical professionals to raise the alarm, but they may not always see the risks in young women. Whether it’s a lump or something that feels “off,” Regina stressed the need to schedule that appointment right away, saying, “The earlier you get it, the more options you have long-term.”

Navigating Screenings & Your Options

If you find something unusual, push for a mammogram or ultrasound—don’t let anyone tell you you’re “too young.” But be cautious: while screening tools like MRIs and PET scans are powerful, they can sometimes lead to false positives and added stress. Regina advises women to consider what’s best for them and adds:

“There’s no right or wrong answer. If you truly believe you need more, ask for it. And don’t hesitate to change doctors if necessary.” – Regina Casini

Support at Michelle’s Place: More Than Medical

At Michelle’s Place, they go above and beyond to support individuals affected by cancer. They offer yoga, Tai Chi, Reiki, massage, art classes, and even mental health counseling. Regina shared,

“We’ve had clients completely transform—mentally and emotionally—by the end of their journey.” – Regina Casini

Their holistic approach extends to providing wigs, prostheses, and more—all at no cost.

Questions to Ask After Diagnosis

One of the most important aspects of treatment is understanding your options. Regina encourages asking detailed questions: “What else can I do? Is there an alternative to the specific protocol recommended?” She advises patients to revisit questions if they don’t understand and reach out for clarity, as she notes, “Dr. Google will give you the worst-case scenario every time.”

Ultimately, remember that your voice matters. Advocate for yourself, connect with supportive resources like Michelle’s Place, and prioritize your health—you deserve it.

Final Thoughts: Empowering Each Other

To every woman listening, know this: Your health matters. Your fears are valid. And there are people out there who want to help, just like Regina. We don’t have to be superhuman all the time. Michelle’s Place stands as a beacon of hope and support, and it reminds us that it’s okay to lean on others.

So, let’s make a pact to prioritize ourselves. Get those check-ups, schedule those appointments, and if you’re struggling—ask for help. There are so many people who want to support you, and as Regina so beautifully put it, “just do it.” Whether you’re on the giving or receiving end, we all benefit from showing up for each other.

Let’s make self-care something we do unapologetically.

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Our team at Outside the Norm Counseling understands the unique struggles women experience and provides compassionate, tailored care to guide you through difficult times. Don’t face these challenges alone—reach out to us at Outside the Norm Counseling and take the first step toward feeling empowered and supported in your journey. For more information, go to Outside the Norm Counseling or call us at 951-395-3288.

Meet Regina Casini

Regina Casini found Michelle’s Place in 2017 at a health fair. She was so touched by the amazing things that they did for their clients that she made a donation and took a free pen. Just 4 months later Regina was diagnosed with breast cancer. Luckily, she knew exactly where to go. As a client, she attended a support group and art classes. Every time she was at the center, she saw how truly special this place is.

After Regina completed treatment, she decided she wanted to give back, so she became a volunteer. A year later the Volunteer Coordinator position was announced, and she knew it was what she was meant to do. It was her “Why?” Regina’s journey through cancer was tough but Michelle’s Place and the friends she found here was her silver lining. She feels so lucky to be able to work with over 120 caring and dedicated volunteers every day.

DIGITAL COORDINATES:

Michelle’s Place Website

Michelle’s Place Instagram

TALK TO A THERAPIST

If you’re feeling stuck and ready to explore these challenges more deeply, consider reaching out for professional help. Here at Outside the Norm Counseling, we’re here to support you on your journey to self-discovery and confidence. For more information, go to Outside the Norm Counselingor call us at 951-395-3288.

Thank you for joining me today. Remember, you are beautiful, you are worthy and empowered. Until next time, stay unapologetically you. Bye for now.

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As a leading authority in women’s empowerment and a fierce advocate for building strong networks, Veronica is your go-to guru for turning fears into victories, struggles into strengths, and doubts into boundless opportunities.
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist for 10 plus years; empowering high-achieving women in business to conquer both professional heights and personal fulfillment. She doesn’t do bandaids!
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