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Ever feel like you’re stuck in a never-ending cycle, no matter how hard you try to change?

In this episode, I’m getting real about why it’s better to change the systems around you rather than trying to change yourself. I open up about my own struggles and the eye-opening realization that life is too short to be stuck in a rut. Inspired by this, I created a group called Empower X to help women master their lives. I lay out three game-changing steps to transform your systems: identifying your Queen Bee Role (QBR), delegating and automating tasks, and setting boundaries to protect your time. By following these steps, you can reclaim your time, lower your stress, and truly shine as your best self.
So, let’s dive in and start making those changes!

Summary

• Transforming the systems around you is more effective than trying to change yourself.
• Identify your Queen Bee Role (QBR) and build systems that support it.
• Delegate and automate tasks to free up your time and energy.
• Set clear boundaries and protect your time to reduce stress and prioritize what matters most to you.

Transforming Your Systems: The Key to Reclaiming Your Life

Hello and welcome back to the Empowered and Unapologetic podcast. I’m your host, Veronica Cisneros. Today, we’re diving into a topic that resonates deeply with many of us: transforming the systems around you rather than trying to change yourself. If you’ve been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or just plain exhausted, stick around because I’ve got some tips that will help you reclaim your time and sanity, and make you feel alive again.

This topic is close to my heart. I used to wake up feeling like I was living the same day over and over again, like Groundhog Day. It wasn’t a midlife crisis, but I knew something had to change. After visiting Europe a few times, I noticed how Europeans truly embrace life. Here, we take pride in our work, but how much is too much? We’ve all experienced loss, and as a therapist, I often discuss life, legacy, and grief with my clients. One recurring theme is the realization that life is finite. If it were to stop now, would you be happy with how you’ve lived?

I’m about to start my group, Empower X, for high-achieving women who want to master motherhood, marriage, and success without compromising themselves. We’ll meet bi-weekly for four weeks, diving deep into our challenges and triumphs. But today, I want to share some insights with you.

The Problem Isn’t You, It’s the Systems

When the systems in your life don’t work for you, you feel overwhelmed and stuck. You might think you should be able to handle everything, but this isolation only leads to burnout and frustration. Let’s break this down into three actionable steps to transform your systems and make real change.

1. Identify Your Queen Bee Role (QBR)

The first step is understanding your QBR, a concept from Michael Michalowicz’s book Clockwork. Your QBR is the most critical function you perform, the one thing that drives the most value in your life. For some, this might be your job or business; for others, it could be spending quality time with your kids. Once you identify your QBR, build systems to support it. For instance, if leading your team at work is your QBR, delegate administrative tasks and use tools like Calendly for scheduling. If it’s being present with your children, delegate chores or use grocery delivery services.

2. Delegate and Automate

Next, look at your daily tasks and identify which ones you can delegate or automate. Hire help, use meal planning apps, or set up automatic bill payments. Freeing up your time allows you to focus on what truly matters. For example, a friend who runs a business from home hired a virtual assistant to handle emails and appointments, freeing up her time to grow her business and spend quality time with her kids.

“Those five minutes that it takes you to do that one task interfere with you being able to do something else, something greater, something that you and only you can do.” (Veronica Cisneros)

3. Set Boundaries and Protect Your Time

Finally, protect your time by setting clear boundaries. Learn to say no and set specific times for work, family, and personal activities. Communicate these boundaries clearly with your family and coworkers. For example, one woman I know struggled with her kids interrupting her work time, so she set up a visual schedule indicating when it was okay to enter her office.

“A relationship without boundaries is doomed to fail.” (Veronica Cisneros)

Why These Changes Matter

When you have systems that support your goals, you’ll feel less stressed and more productive. You’ll have more time for the things that matter most and be able to show up as the best version of yourself in all areas of your life.

“Imagine not feeling constantly overwhelmed and instead feeling empowered and in control.” (Veronica Cisneros)

To summarize, the key to overcoming these struggles is not to transform yourself but to transform the systems you operate within. By implementing these steps, you can reclaim your time, energy, and identity, including peace of mind. If you’re ready to make real changes and need support, consider reaching out to me. Visit VeronicaCisneros.org for more information on workshops and courses designed to help you navigate these challenges.

Thank you for joining me today. Remember, you have the power to change your systems and create the life you desire. Until next time, stay empowered and unapologetically you. And please, share this episode with someone who needs to hear it. Let’s support and uplift one another.

Talk to a Therapist

We all crave affirmation and love, but it’s equally important to nurture our own sense of self-worth. If you’re feeling stuck and ready to explore these challenges more deeply, consider reaching out for professional help. Here at Outside the Norm Counseling, we’re here to support you on your journey to self-discovery and confidence. For more information, go to Outside the Norm Counselingor call us at 951-395-3288.

Thank you for joining me today. Remember, you are beautiful, you are worthy and empowered. Until next time, stay unapologetically you. Bye for now.

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Meet Veronica Cisneros

As a leading authority in women’s empowerment and a fierce advocate for building strong networks, Veronica is your go-to guru for turning fears into victories, struggles into strengths, and doubts into boundless opportunities.
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist for 10 plus years; empowering high-achieving women in business to conquer both professional heights and personal fulfillment. She doesn’t do bandaids!
Veronica has a unique approach to overcoming obstacles and smashing through the glass ceilings that loom over ambitious women. With her arsenal of practical tools, actionable strategies, and unwavering support, Veronica doesn’t just help women succeed in their careers – she helps them thrive in every facet of their lives.

But Veronica’s expertise isn’t just theoretical – it’s personal. With over 24 years of marriage, three daughters, and a soaring career, Veronica embodies the resilience and determination needed to navigate life’s challenges. As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Group Private Practice Owner, of Outside The Norm Counseling, Marriage Coach, and the voice behind the Empowered and Unapologetic podcast, Veronica effortlessly guides women to challenge themselves beyond their comfort zones.

Veronica is more than an expert – she’s a partner in transformation, turning mundane relationships into true connections. With her relatable charm and infectious humor, Veronica illuminates the path for women who refuse to settle for anything less than success in both business and relationships. Through practical tips, heartfelt anecdotes, and her trademark wit, Veronica empowers every woman to cultivate unbreakable bonds without sacrificing their ambitions.

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