How to find the right Therapist in 5 steps- Tips from a Therapist | EU 1446 min read

November 21, 2022

Are you feeling nervous at the moment? Does the idea of seeing family at the end of the year leave you feeling anxious? Have you been withdrawing from your loved ones and you’re not sure why? In this podcast episode, I talk about how to find the right Therapist in 5 steps. From how to […]

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Are you feeling nervous at the moment? Does the idea of seeing family at the end of the year leave you feeling anxious? Have you been withdrawing from your loved ones and you’re not sure why?

In this podcast episode, I talk about how to find the right Therapist in 5 steps. From how to find a therapist to which questions you should be asking in your first intake appointment.


  • How to find a great local therapist
  • Research!
  • How to figure out the finances
  • Read the bios
  • Which questions you should ask on the first call

How to find a great local therapist

You can find a local therapist in your area by going to Psychology Today. There you will enter your location and filter through which type of therapist you want.

For instance, if you are struggling with anxiety or depression you would want to find a therapist that specializes in this issue. (Veronica Cisneros)

There are several tabs on the website page that you can filter through to find the right therapist that meets your criteria.


We want to make sure we find the therapist that is right for you. (Veronica Cisneros)

Looking at the tab “Types of Therapy” can be overwhelming, so doing a little bit of research will help you to find which approach could best fit you.

For example, if you’re looking for someone to help you regulate your moods, communicate effectively, build confidence, and challenge or even stop your negative thinking, a therapist who specializes in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, that therapist would probably suit you best. (Veronica Cisneros)

Although all therapists have gone through rigorous training, they don’t have the same approaches, so it’s important to identify what your therapist is trained in.

How to figure out the finances

If you can cover therapy out of pocket or you have PPO insurance, you can pick whomever you want as your therapist.

Your therapist can provide you with a super bill, and you can send this over to your insurance company to seek reimbursement.

Contact your insurance company to find out what the reimbursement percentage rate is.

You will find that highly sought-after clinicians do not take insurance. The reason for this may be due to the therapist not wanting their treatments with their client to be dictated by an insurance company. There is a lot more freedom for the therapist to take a deeper dive into your life when they aren’t regulated by an insurance company. (Veronica Cisneros)

Many people avoid insurance to maintain flexibility and privacy over their treatment. Insurance companies require a diagnosis and have access to sessions, which is not always ideal for every client.

If you have PPO insurance, consider asking the following questions:

  • How much does my plan cover for an out-of-network provider?
  • Do I need approval from my primary physician?
  • How many sessions does my plan cover per calendar year?
  • What is my deductible and has it been met?

For those that have an HMO, you will need to find a therapist that is paneled with your insurance company. This may be ideal for some as the payment for therapy is usually the amount of a co-payment.

Read the bios

Now that you have selected your favorite therapists, the next step is to read their bios:

  • Does this person sound like someone you would like to meet and talk to?
  • Do you find some of the things you struggle with are described in their bios?
  • What is their background?

If you like them, start by creating a list of at least five therapists to call.

Which questions you should ask on the first call

Ask if they are licensed or an associate.

An associate is working under a licensed clinician who is their supervisor, and they will meet with them … one to two times a week. They cannot see clients without a supervisor assigned to them. (Veronica Cisneros)

  • Ask them about their training and educational background, and ask them to explain their training if it’s unclear to you.
  • What is their specialty and how much experience do they have working with people who have issues similar to yours?

This is where you would share with them your current struggles and symptoms.

  • What is their therapeutic orientation? DBT, CBT, EMDR?
  • Ask how this intervention would be effective for your issues or symptoms.
  • Ask them about their rates and if they are willing to provide a sliding scale.

Once you have finished completing the calls and you have determined which one fits you the best, you need to schedule an appointment.

Even though this may seem uncomfortable to do, remember, by investing in your mental and emotional health you are taking the necessary steps to pursue the life that you want to live.

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Meet Veronica Cisneros

Veronica Cisneros | Empowered And Unapologetic Podcast

Hello, my name is Veronica Cisneros, I am a licensed marriage and family therapist for over 7 years, a Group Private Practice owner, a Mother of 3, and married for over 20 years. I help housewives transform their marriage, communicate effectively and build confidence. Like you, I also struggled with cutting through the communication barriers. I felt like there was no reason for my husband and me to feel unhappy because we had it all. We just felt disconnected and our conversations were filled with avoidance, kids’ hobbies, and schedules. 

I’ve helped plenty of couples in my private practice who struggled with similar issues. With my proven strategies and step-by-step skills, I’ve helped hundreds of women reignite their marriages. I am known for helping women step outside of their comfort zones, I don’t do bandaids, I only teach life-changing healing methods.

Whether you listen to the podcast, join the free Facebook community, or join our ‘Reconnect with your Husband’ Workshop,  you’re in the right place. Let’s do this together!

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