Do you often deal with resentment towards your partner? How can you relate with your partner instead of positioning them as the enemy? Are you listening to understand or listening to respond? Does your husband feel like he needs to be invited to play with the kids?

In this podcast episode, I share a very personal story about a time in my Marriage when I felt overwhelmed with the kids, and the house, doing it all alone while Willie was deployed. Join me on this episode as I talk you through some steps on dealing with resentment and how to stop fighting with your Husband.

In This Podcast

Summary

• Remember to empathize
• Steps to healing resentment
• Be mindful of defensiveness

Remember to empathize

When resentment is allowed to build up, people tend to position their partners as the enemy.

It is important to look at the full picture and not get wrapped up in anger without seeing other perspectives.

Very rarely do we see how he might be compromising himself to go ahead and meet the needs of the family. How has he compromised his needs to meet the needs of the family? (Veronica Cisneros)

Steps to healing resentment

1 – Identify how he is doing the work. It may not look like yours, but if it is there then it still counts and should be validated.

How might he be showing up the same way you are? How is he also putting in for the family? How is he also compromising himself to meet the family’s needs? (Veronica Cisneros)

2 – Provide him with empathy. How can you empathize with him? How are you both in the same battle? Put yourself in your spouse’s shoes and recognize that they are not the enemy, and have good intentions.

3 – Be honest with yourself. How are you positioning your partner as the enemy? Are your past experiences interrupting your current perception of what is happening?

Challenge yourself to dig deeper. Why are you holding this anger and resentment? Are you afraid of something? How might your past be showing up? (Veronica Cisneros)

Be mindful of defensiveness

If you and your partner are defensive all the time, it could be because you do not feel safe being vulnerable around one another.
You have to trust your partner – and your partner needs to trust you – that when either one of you is vulnerable with how you feel and what your experience of a situation is, they will listen to you, and try to empathize.
Share and communicate. By not communicating, resentment builds.

Useful links:

• How to Have Arguments Without Hurting One Another | EU 109
• RECONNECT WITH YOUR HUSBAND – Online Workshop – 2-hour workshop April 6^th at 11 am
• FREE Guide Download – 5 Mistakes to Avoid for a Healthy Marriage
• Join The Empowered and Unapologetic Housewives Club
• Empowered and Unapologetic Instagram Page 

Meet Veronica Cisneros

Hello, my name is Veronica Cisneros, I am a licensed marriage and family therapist for over 7 years, a Group Private Practice owner, a Mother of 3, and married for over 20 years. I help housewives transform their marriage, communicate effectively and build confidence. Like you, I also struggled with cutting through the communication barriers. I felt like there was no reason for my husband and I to feel unhappy because we had it all. We just felt disconnected and our conversations were filled with avoidance, kids’ hobbies, and schedules. 

I’ve helped plenty of couples in my private practice who struggled with similar issues. With my proven strategies and step-by-step skills, I’ve helped hundreds of women reignite their marriages. I am known for helping women step outside of their comfort zones, I don’t do bandaids, I only teach life-changing healing methods.

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