Mama, are you feeling unappreciated? Feeling disregarded in the marriage? Do you and your husband fight all the time and you feel as though there is no trust or respect for each other anymore?

It’s time to set some boundaries, some non-negotiables. It’s also important to speak up when your boundaries are crossed.

In this podcast episode I answer one of the questions that were submitted to me, the question was: My question is how can my husband and I regain certain values we once had for each other which I believe are a strong foundation for a healthy relationship, but unfortunately we’ve had a bit of a fallout and have slowly lost those values which are trust and respect?

Come join me on this episode where I walk you through what you can implement starting today to take the necessary steps towards regaining the values you once had.

In This Podcast

Summary

• Make sure you respect yourself
• Speak up
• Have boundaries
• DEARMAN Script

Make sure you respect yourself

You got to respect yourself. I know you want respect in the relationship, but I also want you to think about how you can best show up for yourself. (Veronica Cisneros)

Going into a people-pleasing mode is not respecting yourself. This is disrespectful to yourself. Trust and respect come from you first.

People-pleasing and trust do not exist together because it is impossible to trust someone who is a people-pleaser to tell you what they need, what they want, and which things need to change.

To have a fulfilling, honest and respectful relationship, people-pleasing needs to come to a stop.

In order for you to build up that respect, I want you to identify what your non-negotiables are. What are the things that you are not willing to negotiate on? (Veronica Cisneros)

Speak up

If or when you feel like trust, love, and respect are not being upheld in your marriage and relationship, speak up, and open up.

It can be scary, but you need to always be real to your partner and yourself, otherwise, you will be living in a false relationship, and nothing will change.

It is extremely important that you identify what exactly what it is that you want. What is it that you want from the relationship? What do you need? (Veronica Cisneros)

Many people who do not know what their needs are will constantly ask their partner what their needs are and dedicate their time to fulfilling them instead of also searching for their own.

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Have boundaries

A tenet to respect and self-respect is to have and reinforce your boundaries. These are the ways you teach people to treat you and are examples of what you enjoy want what is not acceptable to you.

For example, you could have a boundary around communication and not allow or enable your partner to speak to you in a demeaning manner.

A relationship without boundaries is a relationship on the path towards divorce. (Veronica Cisneros)

Stick to your boundaries. Whatever it is that you say you will do, you must do. There must be consequences if people overstep your boundaries and mistreat you. It builds your self-respect when you defend yourself when your boundaries are crossed.

The flipside of this is that you should not say anything that you do not mean.

DEARMAN Script

D – Describe the situation

E – Express your emotions

A – Assert yourself

R – Reinforce it

M – Mindful

A – Appear confident

N – Negotiate

Useful links:

• Episode 100 – A Look Back At The Journey | EU 100
• www.feelingswheel.com
• Reconnect With Your Husband Workshop – Feb 9th 2022 – Enroll Here
• Join The Empowered and Unapologetic Housewives Club
• Empowered and Unapologetic Instagram Page 

Meet Veronica Cisneros

Hello, my name is Veronica Cisneros, I am a licensed marriage and family therapist for over 7 years, a Group Private Practice owner, a Mother of 3, and married for 21 years. I help housewives transform their marriage, communicate effectively and build confidence. Like you, I also struggled with cutting through the communication barriers. I felt like there was no reason for my husband and I to feel unhappy because we had it all. We just felt disconnected and our conversations were filled with avoidance, kids’ hobbies, and schedules. 

I’ve helped plenty of couples in my private practice who struggled with similar issues. With my proven strategies and step-by-step skills, I’ve helped hundreds of women reignite their marriages. I am known for helping women step outside of their comfort zones, I don’t do bandaids, I only teach life-changing healing methods.

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